Look after yourself

This life itself is an odyssey,  a journey. Travelling through this temporary abode as we count our years.

A sister whom I adore and admire, one of the greatest friends I have, shared this:

An advice from the great scholar Imam Ibn al-Qayyim:

A friend will not (literally) share your struggles, and a loved one cannot physically take away your pain, and a close one will not stay up the night on your behalf. So look after yourself, protect yourself, nurture yourself and don’t give life’s events more than what they are really worth. Know for certain that when you break no one will heal you except you, and when you are defeated no one will give you victory except your determination. Your ability to stand up again and carry on is your responsibility. Do not look for your self worth in the eyes of people; look for your worth from within your conscience. If your conscience is at peace then you will ascend high and if you truly know yourself then what is said about you won’t harm you.

Do not carry the worries of this life because this is for Allah. And do not carry the worries of sustenance because it is from Allah. And do not carry the anxiety for the future because it is in the Hands of Allah.

Carry one thing: How to Please Allah. Because if you please Him, He Pleases you, fulfils you and enriches you.

Do not weep from a life that made your heart weep. Just say, “Oh Allah compensate me with good in this life and the hereafter.”

Sadness departs with a Sajdah. Happiness comes with a sincere Du’a. Allah Does Not forget the good you do. nor Does He Forget the good you did to others and the pain you relieved them from. Nor Will He Forget the eye which was about to cry but you made it laugh.

Live your life with this principle: Be good even if you don’t receive good, not because for other’s sake but because Allah loves those who do good.

It calms me yet I felt a squeeze in my heart. Of guilt, perhaps. Overwhelmed that I teared.  I sure have a lot to learn. And I hope when it’s time, I will be in the best of what’s expected of me, in need of His mercy.

Every soul you meet is for a purpose. I’ve read somewhere even if you probably might not be with them till the end of your lives, every single person is your soulmate. Looking back at friends or even strangers I’ve met years ago, taught me a lesson or two. Beautifully arranged.

“On our path through this life, we are blessed with meeting special people who help cure the loneliness. Our hearts recognize them almost instantly. This is because our souls were together before this life…and will perhaps be together after this life has passed.” – Yasmin Mogahed


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